It can hurt when our scene partner (or partners) doesn’t seem to be as dedicated to the work at hand as we are. Perhaps they show up without having prepared properly, or they’re unfocussed and unprofessional, or maybe their general disposition just doesn’t conform to our idea of a serious actor. Whatever the problem, it can feel like an affront to our own effort and aspiration. The question is though: what are we going to do about it? Teach them a lesson? Hate them? Flip out? Perhaps we could set about trying to change them, to change those aspects of their personality we think need changing. Personally, I wouldn’t recommend any of these. They are all exhausting, joyless and bootless. All you’ll succeed in doing is losing your own focus on the goals you’ve set for yourself.
And that’s the point.
Don’t use your colleagues as a means of distracting you from accomplishing your goals. Don’t use them as an excuse for failing to achieve what you set out to achieve. Accept them for who they actually are, forget about who you’d like them to be. Embrace their unique qualities. Work with them rather than trying to push against them.
The best way to promote your ideals is to embody them, to put them into practice, to demonstrate them yourself, whilst accomplishing your goals.